I don’t think that sexual behaviors should be tolerated in children.
Youtube is littered with videos of little girls dancing “like Beyonce” or “Shakira” and popular shows like Toddlers and Tiaras display child beauty queens prance around the stage wearing fake breasts and dressed as whores. This is reckless, irresponsible, and contributes to the hypersexualization of young women. Girls (and boys) should be allowed to come into their sexuality in due time, without adult novelties being forced upon them.
In 2002 Abercrombie & Fitch (the douchebag of the retail world) got major backlash when they began to sell thongs targeted at girls ages 10-14.
This happened over a decade ago, and I wonder what would happen if the same thing happened today. I know that my reaction would be the same: Who the heck cares what anybody (even a little girl) is wearing for underwear? That’s right. Even with my radical ideas about conservative sexuality, I am honestly not bothered by the idea of a 10 year old wearing a thong. A bikini? Yes. But not a thong.
You’re probably thinking, “But didn’t you just say that we shouldn’t sexualize our children? Isn’t giving them sexy underwear doing just that?”
Yes. And, no, not really.
I really think that underwear is just underwear…pieces of cloth designed to be worn under our clothes for the purposes of cleanliness and comfort. Some people think of thongs as being sexual (Sisqo, for one), but I think that this is because they have been sexualized, not because they are inherently sexual. I myself am a thong wearer (sorry if that’s TMI, but if you are afraid of TMI you should probably get off of my blog and run for the hills ASAP) and don’t feel like it has anything to with sex or sexiness.
My mom game me a pair of see-through string-bikini style underwear when I was 12ish and shortly after that I migrated from cotton briefs to an array of thong, low cut, lace, etc. underwear. I understood that there was something “sexy” about it, but I honestly don’t feel that it quickened my interest in sex or encouraged me to “act out” sexually. It was just my underwear and had nothing to do with my interactions with other people. To be honest, I was in fact a sexual person at the age of 12 (early puberty, early hormones…it happens), but I was going to be that way no matter what i was wearing.
I think it becomes inappropriate for pre-teen girls to wear “sexy” underwear if they are being taught that that is how we get attention from other people. While I don’t think there’s anything wrong with panties that show a little bum, I think that we should be wary of sexual phrases that images that convey the message that they are meant to be seen.
But ultimately, it is just a piece of cloth. Who cares if it doesn’t cover their bottom…aren’t they wearing pants over it?
I have a feeling this may be one of my most unpopular posts ever. What do you think? Do you think I’m out of line? Moms and dads, what do you think?